The current number of divorces in the u.s. is greater than 50%, not an encouraging statistics. When a couple of the decision to marry, not they anticipate divorce. They are bright and hopeful of live together in love and happiness, til death do us part ". Why is it that people who believe they've found their ultimate happiness with another person, end up in a difficult relationship some time on the road? They knew their marriage partner is not good enough yet? The vicissitudes of life have placed insurmountable problems for them? Troubled relationships are much more common than you might imagine. Sad, but, unfortunately, true. If you feel that you live in a nightmare relationship, with seemingly no way to resolve the issues, read on.
What are the signatures of a difficult relationship? A lack of productive communication on top of the list. Couples often fall into the trap of communicate in an unproductive way, always opponents rather than partners. This is usually indicative of lack of respect for each other. For example, one partner may be too critical of their spouse, aimed at small and insignificant issues. Maybe love you not the way that your partner dresses. You comments and your partner is irritated and feel humiliated. You respond with a dissertation on your partner's penchant for spending too much time on a hobby. This is the unproductive communication. Still, it can be as much a part of your daily interaction that you don't even notice it's seriously difficult relationship that eventually develops.
Do you think that you constantly fighting? If you haven't seen the movie, ' who's afraid of Virginia Woolf? ', consider renting this classic. Virginia, played by Elizabeth Taylor, opposite her professor husband, Richard Burton, is obsessed with her fictional child and what might have been. Both participate in the continued fighting and vindictive arguments, all based on the alleged existence of a child they could never and had no. Virginia's obsession was hidden and the professor tried both to hide her tragedy, while defending his own mental health. If you find yourself in a seemingly difficult relationship, consider how you got there. The truth can not easily be found.
Another factor to consider in the troubled relationship also covers the Virginia Woolf syndrome. Is your relationship built on opposite end games? Depend on your partner for the establishment of some reason to be? Is your partner? You must be a fair, objective analysis of what each of you expect from the relationship. Mutual dependency is not the answer. Honest communication enables you to troubleshoot. While this discussion can be painful for both parties, the issues in the full light of day to get off the resources to resolution in your difficult relationship to determine.
The relationship Is a matter of convenience, not ready to call it closed out a habit for the status quo? Here's where really honest communication comes into play. You loved this person when you married with them. What has the picture changed? Exterior color your relationship problems? Is anyone out for revenge? Has a lack of mutual trust developed? Why? Life can dish out many a problems. You owe it to yourself and your spouse, to ferret out the reasons for your troubled relationship.
It is important to remember that you both time and faith has invested in your relationship. Be as honest as you can communicate. Remember how you felt once about each other. Making your best effort to recover what once was.
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